A good friend of mine just died in Ghana – a young man,
around 37 years, who I’ve known since 1997.
He had been sick and hospitalized a few months ago, but then was out and
we were in touch, skyped, emailed, chatted, talked on phone, and he told me he
was gradually getting stronger. Then, early last
week an Australian woman who I knew and who was also friends with Daniel sent
me a text that he was hospitalized for kidney infection. Then, a couple of days after she said it wasn’t
looking good; it’s now kidney failure. She
didn’t live in the city anymore so was going down to Accra to be nearby and
find out more, help however she could. She
kept me posted as things got worse and worse.
Another good friend of Daniel’s flew from The Netherlands to be with
him, arriving late on Saturday night.
Daniel spent Sunday curled up in his friend’s arms, and my friend texted
me that he was leaving us. Around
midnight Ghana time I received a text from my Australian friend that Daniel had
moved on. I cried. Others who knew him in Ghana, The Netherlands
and the US texted over the next few days, all of us sharing tears and
heartache. I wrote a sad, angry,
frustrated blog update - - but haven’t yet posted it. And I probably won’t. Daniel, along with some other friends, had
been at the airport to see me off at the end of August – I never imagined as I
hugged him good-bye that it would be the last time I’d see his twinkling eyes,
hear his laughter and laugh at his humor.
Those of us who knew him were blessed to have this sweet man in our
lives. I'm so thankful that at the end he was with two people who loved him and whom he loved and trusted. He trusted his friend enough to let go and find eternal peace in his arms.
L-R: Greetje (a friend of ours from The Netherlands - not the one I mention above), Benedict (a Liberian friend of ours who I've written about before), me, and Daniel (in the cap) - taken about a year ago
Tomorrow I leave for Liberia for a couple of weeks and then
onto Ghana. It’s an “official” visit to
see our lay missionaries in the field, also the SMA “bosses” in the field. I’m excited, of course. I’ve never been to Liberia, yet I’ve worked
with Liberians since 1993. I get to have some responsibility again, resolve some problems, be creative, meet with people, etc. And - a side bonus - is that many of my
friends are now living in Liberia. I won’t
get to see all of them, but I’ll enjoy catching up with a few. In Ghana, I’ll also see some of my friends, but again there won’t be enough time to see all.
A friend of Daniel’s here in the US has sent a donation for
me to use in Ghana – my intention is to take a few of his friends out for us to
celebrate his life and pour a few libations in his honor. It happened so fast that very few people were
able to get to see him to say good-bye and tell him they loved him. We all want to share our grief together for a bit, and then move on to celebrate this beautiful man's life. Maybe when I get back I’ll update the blog a
little about this – maybe with the angry, crying update that I saved on the
desktop to give the full journey, followed by the celebration we’ll have of
Daniel’s life. After all, the blog
updates are often my therapy – so, why not be therapized.
3 Comments:
What a good idea to take out some of Daniel's friends to celebrate his life--a nice Memorial Service and I'm sure you all will have a lot to share about him. It will be great therapy for all of you to be able to get together and share the good memories you have of him. I know this always helped being able to share the good memories of my mom, dad, brother, and sister with other family members--and even though it might sound strange, even sharing some of the things that would make me angry with them---and being able to laugh at them, thinking how trivial they really were now that I could see things differently. Have a great trip, a safe trip, and come back, as you put it "therapized".
So sorry about your friend, Steve. Can't wait to hear about Liberia! Even more for you than me, but Liberia touched our lives and yet we never got there. Glad you will be going at last!
Blessings on your trip! May it renew your energy and also may you see some of the fruit of your ministry. You have been a gift and great support to many people.
So sorry to read about your friend, Daniel. I'm glad that you will be able to share with some of his friends. Take the time to grieve.
Will call in June. Blessings!
Auntie Dorie
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